Anger Control Activities For Adults

This topic in the mind development series addresses anger control activities for adults. Most of us do not realise how powerful we actually are, so instead of “manning up”, we allow our emotions to take control of us. Know that you are in control of your behaviour and your emotions even though it may not feel that way. The reason it does not feel that way is because we do not trust in our abilities, we do not believe in ourselves. We have to believe that we are so much in control that no one can push our buttons to “make us” behave in a certain way (whether that pushed button is triggered to explode into anger or frustration or lashing out).  We need to compare our minds to driving a car. When we get into the driver seat, we are in sole possession of that car and can steer it how we want to (in a legal fashion of course). Equally we are in the driver seat when it comes to our mind, we control its ups, downs. There is nobody else in the driver seat but ourselves. Stop pretending you have no control
We are in control of our bodies and our minds. You have to know that or you will always remain a slave at the mercy of the next person that chooses to press your button. They become the puppet master while you become the puppet. There are some truly despicable people in this world that will exploit and manipulate this weakness of yours/ours unless firstly you truly recognise what and how these anger frustration episodes occur. Stare it down in the face and tell it that you are no longer going to be controlled by it. Fact of the matter is either You are in control of you, or somebody else is in control of you. Would you rather you were in control of your mind and body or someone else?

8 Comments on “Anger Control Activities For Adults”

  1. I used to be a very agitated person, like if anything doesn’t move the way I plan it, I would take it the wrong way and say hurtful things to people. At a much later time, I actually regret what I say. Now at my workplace, my superior is a very temperamental person so I kind of get the idea what other people would feel in this kind of situation. Hurtful words and worse, physical abuse is a bad condition to live or work in. If one can’t fix it, then I would recommend them to get out of it. 

  2. Dear Ann,

    Thanks a lot for the helpful and informative post.

    To Take Control Of Your Life, You Must Take Control Of Yourself!

    I got great insights from your post. The anger control activities are amazing and the Auto suggestions are very helpful.

    My grand ma use to tell me, whenever you are getting angry go and have a glass of water and it will reduce your anger.

    I am going to place the phrase you suggested on the mirror and in few places. Thanks again!

    Wishing you Great Success!


  3. You’re right Ann, we are completely in control of our emotions and behavior; we can choose how we act and respond to various circumstances, especially those that could trigger us to become angry.

    I used to make the same excuses such as: they pushed my buttons, they triggered my anger or they provoked me. I should know better than blame others for the way I act and respond. Anger control activities and exercises definitely work. And so I remind myself everyday that I am in control of ME.

    1. yes, pushing ones button as cause of anger is common in teenage years and adulthood. We all need to be self aware of what triggers certain emotions within us. Then protect our minds from abuse by not repeating negative dialogue to ourselves

  4. A very well written article, on a subject unfortunately close to my heart. 

    As a teenager I constantly suffered from ‘buttons being pressed’ and it took me at least a decade of my adult life to get a proper hold of it, and grow up. To be honest it never really leaves you – you just find a way of dulling it down and recognise the signals when it starts ‘growing’ inside you!

    I really like the idea of placing a positive phrase on a sticker and putting it somewhere where you’ll see it – I used to use a similar method where I wrote a ‘P’ in magic marker on the back of my right hand, to remind myself to stay positive throughout the day!

    1. I  can personally attest to the daily morning written stream of consciousness exercise, so that it is not simply dulled down, really this works not just for anger but for any issue you might be facing, give it a go

  5. Hello Ann – I appreciated your piece on anger control.  I think this is a much larger problem than most realize.  It is also a difficult item to write about and share with your audience.  

    The suggestions you offer add substance to your writing as they can prove most helpful to those that need help the most !  Often it is a close friend or family members that suffer at the hands of uncontrolled anger.  Your information hopefully will reach and connect with these folks to awaken them to the struggle within their “sometimes angry” friend.

    I’ll be interested to see where you go from here.  Regards  Mike

  6. In the last three decades I learned a lot about anger in general and about “my” anger as well.

    I discovered that when a person pushed my buttons of some sort it was actually, Me, seeing my self or the action in the other person. Therefore, when I got angry at the other person I actually got angry at myself.

    The sub-conscious mind, where everything is stored, is a powerful weapon we either can be victimized by it or surrender and letting go.

    I am not saying it is easy nor is there a magic bullet, instead, it takes some work on ourselves to reduce the anger.

    One of the workshop leaders. back then, I went to said that awareness is the first step to change.

    I find your article spot on and the anger control activities you have mentioned do work wonders, in time.

    Thanks for sharing.

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