Believe it or not when this happens, your reaction to it is simply part of the mind development process. This is because it happens to most everybody and it has absolutely nothing to do with you! It is upsetting but whatever you do don’t dwell on it and by this I mean within the next 24 hours you should be back to your sweet calm self, as though nothing ever happened.
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Most schools of thought will tell you to simply not react, I am in agreement here, don’t call, don’t text, don’t email him or her. Instead whilst you are going about your own business, see if he gets back to you with a quick apology and a reason for his behaviour, it is at this point that you choose if you want to respond. Respond in a calm manner suitable for a lady of high regard. We don’t want him to know how annoyed or affected his actions were on us!
Though if he has any sense of decency he should know that his actions are annoying as he has wasted our time and given false expectations. If he has zero decency you won’t hear from him in over a week or never..this is the very worst kind of person that does not give a flying fig about our emotions, so why would you want to tell a guy like that that he hurt your feelings? He does not give two hoots! A guy like that will lie to you and skillfully try to manipulate you into thinking that everything is cool when it is not. Stay clear of this guy with a barge pole. They will mess with your emotions some where else down the line. In fact this type of guy will likely stand you up a second time! If this has happened to you, yes I understand you will be upset and angry.
Here’s what not to do. Do Not Start Plotting Revenge. Please dont become that woman in the fatal attraction movie. When you are not in control of your emotions, something or someone else is in control of you. Plotting revenge is the first sign that you and your emotions are spiralling out of control. Please refrain from revenge mentality. You are a beautiful person and any type of shitty behaviour directed at you does not tarnish that fact! It is the other person that is in the wrong. Keep your mental health in a clean healthy calm state.
Now coming back to the guy that has come back the next day/ the following morning with an apology and some flowers. This guy is worth hearing out. But still follow your instincts as to whether or not you think he is worth it and want to continue the relationship.
At the end of the day know that this type of behaviour whether displayed by male or female, it goes both ways, is unacceptable. It is also cowardly and disrespectful. If you find yourself on the receiving end of an invitation that you do not want or are unsure that you want, simply say that you are “unable to make it”. Nice and simple. Do reply nice and promptly the way you would want somebody to respond to you. It costs nothing to be polite. And I do believe in karma ie you reap what you sew. If you treat people badly it will come back to haunt you. I will repeat what I said earlier just to make sure you heard me. Remember, you are beautiful, people treating you badly does not change that fact, it does not suddenly reduce your self worth or make you less valuable in any way so don’t act like it does, simply move on.
Peace and love
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